Could anybody please send me some good vibes?

[magical thyme]

12. I'm so sorry... of course it is not your fault

(((LiberoEsto)))

Your daughter is old enough for self control and self responsibility. Sorry for this, but anxiety disorder my ass. Your husband should be on your team, helping your daughter to learn self-reliance, not encouraging your daughter's tantrums and dependency.

I agree with the responses above. Tell her she can get and set her own damn alarm clock, call and make her own damn appointments, and fix herself some dinner. When she has made herself an appointment, then she can ask -- as a favor -- for a ride to it. And pay gas money and pick up dinner or lunch for you, in return.

Your husband can fix dinner or pick up take out.

And they both can stfu (imho, but then I live alone for a reason).

Can you get out of there for a while and hang out somewhere else? Libraries are peaceful, comfortable and free.