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southerncrone

(5,510 posts)
35. Sorry for your loss, Pink Tiger.
Sun Jan 29, 2012, 02:03 AM
Jan 2012

Don't think there is any such thing as "normal" when dealing with this kind of loss. Each of us has our own ways of coping. If he had a serious heart condition, you have probably conditioned yourself to expect this for some time. You may have been dealing w/it on a subconscious level for quite a while. The fact that he died in his sleep is a blessing for both of you. May be his way of helping you get through this period easier. What a loving gift he gave. If he was suffering, then his passing would be a relief for both of you, too. Sometimes release from this world is actually a positive thing for those concerned. The numb feeling may be shock. There may be a delayed reaction, but I'd meditate on it and ask for the answer. He will let you know in his own way, as your higher self will, too.
Take care of yourself & make sure to continue social contacts, they will help you carry on in this world & give you a support system.
Love, light & peace to you.

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My husband died Jan 14 [View all] PinkTiger Jan 2012 OP
Numb = normal. CurtEastPoint Jan 2012 #1
{{{PinkTiger}}} MorningGlow Jan 2012 #2
I am so sorry to hear of your loss Sanity Claws Jan 2012 #3
So sorry for your loss. n/t poverlay Jan 2012 #4
I'm so sorry for your loss PinkTiger Sweet Freedom Jan 2012 #5
Hugs to you, PinkTiger. Melissa G Jan 2012 #6
Oh Pink Tiger I'm so sorry! Howler Jan 2012 #7
So sorry for your loss dickthegrouch Jan 2012 #8
Oh dear PinkTiger BanzaiBonnie Jan 2012 #9
I'm sorry, PT Why Syzygy Jan 2012 #10
I'm so sorry for your loss LiberalEsto Jan 2012 #11
((((((((((PinkTiger)))))))))) TeeYiYi Jan 2012 #12
Very sorry. elleng Jan 2012 #13
I'm so sorry. Still Blue in PDX Jan 2012 #14
I am sorry for your loss Pugee Jan 2012 #15
Oh, PinkTiger! Habibi Jan 2012 #16
I'm so sorry for your loss, PinkTiger.... magical thyme Jan 2012 #17
Sending Love and Light to you PinkTiger MagickMuffin Jan 2012 #18
Oh wow- I'm sorry Tumbulu Jan 2012 #19
Hugs to Pink Tiger wovenpaint Jan 2012 #20
I'm so sorry for your lost, PT mysticalchick Jan 2012 #21
So sorry to hear that. Cleita Jan 2012 #22
I'm so sorry for your loss Ricochet21 Jan 2012 #23
So sorry for your loss, PinkTiger Proud_Lefty Jan 2012 #24
Pink Tiger Celebration Jan 2012 #25
Dear Pink Tiger, I am sorry for your loss. I felt very much the say way when my husband japple Jan 2012 #26
My condolences Generic Brad Jan 2012 #27
35 years with someone you love is a wonderful gift Lucinda Jan 2012 #28
So sorry for your loss. applegrove Jan 2012 #29
Thanks, everyone. PinkTiger Jan 2012 #30
I surely wish for ease to arrive soon. kimmerspixelated Jan 2012 #31
So sorry to hear this! WolverineDG Jan 2012 #32
I am so terribly sorry, PinkTiger... OneGrassRoot Jan 2012 #33
Even your statement being so brief speaks volumes of your sadness. glinda Jan 2012 #34
Sorry for your loss, Pink Tiger. southerncrone Jan 2012 #35
I am so very sorry to hear this! davsand Jan 2012 #36
Ohhhh, Pink. I am very sorry for your loss. BlueIris Jan 2012 #37
Wow that's a longterm marriage Tsiyu Jan 2012 #38
So sorry to read of your loss rosesaylavee Jan 2012 #39
Sending you my condolences Bluestar Jan 2012 #40
Oh, I'm so sorry. My sincere condolences. Remember Me Jan 2012 #41
Condolences for your loss, PinkTiger... villager Jan 2012 #42
Oh, Pink Tiger, I am so sorry..... Ecumenist Jan 2012 #43
I am sorry for your loss. icymist Jan 2012 #44
Oooohhhhh Delphinus Jan 2012 #45
You are normal. yellerpup Jan 2012 #46
I am so sorry cate94 Jan 2012 #47
I am so sorry. murielm99 Jan 2012 #48
numb is normal. everything is normal during shock... NuttyFluffers Jan 2012 #49
I am so sorry for your loss, Pink Tiger. Mnemosyne Jan 2012 #50
I am so sorry for your loss. peacefreak Jan 2012 #51
Thanks again, all PinkTiger Jan 2012 #52
My condolences on your loss. bigmonkey Jan 2012 #53
Pink Tiger! BlueToTheBone Feb 2012 #54
I am so very very sorry. nt Mojorabbit Feb 2012 #55
hey rbnyc Feb 2012 #56
Just here reminding you that you are not alone. Please keep in touch as you are able. Mnemosyne Feb 2012 #57
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