My husband died Jan 14

[dickthegrouch]

8. So sorry for your loss

The first stage of grief is disbelief. It's hard to believe he's gone. And don't beat yourself up if you feel some relief that he's out of pain now, that's quite common too. I'm afraid you can expect some wildly changing emotions for a while. If you are religious, a priest might help explain what you are going through. If not, the funeral home director may be another good source of comforting information. (Even after the funeral).

Stay as positive as you can, be kind to yourself and seek out friends and family.

While everyone says "let me know if there's anything I can do", no-one knows what's needed except you (otherwise they wouldn't ask). Something as simple as answering the phone for you can go a long way to reducing your grief or anxiety.