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Phoenix61

(18,385 posts)
6. I'm not sure why you want to change the trust.
Mon Nov 8, 2021, 08:38 PM
Nov 2021

The biggest reason to use one is to avoid probate. You need to have a legal copy of the trust documents as you will have to present them to any and all financial institutions that your parents have accounts at. If you and your sister are to split everything the institution will create two separate accounts, one in each of your names. Save yourself a lot of aggravation and ask to speak to whoever is in charge. Trusts are easy but a new person may not be familiar with them and it’s a royal pain to fix those types of mistakes. (I got to be friends with the bank VP) If you’re in Florida managing the property will be a pain if your sister decides to be difficult as all heirs have to sign off on a sale. The power of attorney can be specific to paying bills etc.
Happy to answer any questions. My folks had a trust but when my dad died my mom had advanced Alzheimer’s. Had to get a doctors note so I could be established as the trustee. Happy to answer any questions you have.

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Speak with an attorney and see if the trust can be amended to appoint an independent trustee. guillaumeb Nov 2021 #1
dad doesnt trust anyone... FirstLight Nov 2021 #8
Understood. guillaumeb Nov 2021 #10
You really should get your dad's unlimited power of attorney so you *can* pay his bills Ocelot II Nov 2021 #2
one step at a time...I dont WANT him thinking I wanna take over. and at least FirstLight Nov 2021 #9
My daughter is a co-signer on my checking accounts; she is not a co-owner. No Vested Interest Nov 2021 #13
agreed azureblue Nov 2021 #16
Hope it goes well for all 3 of you. blm Nov 2021 #3
I don't know if you will be able to make changes in many of your parent's planning. TexasTowelie Nov 2021 #4
Oh, my goodness leftieNanner Nov 2021 #5
I'm not sure why you want to change the trust. Phoenix61 Nov 2021 #6
Are you a Trustee? nt DURHAM D Nov 2021 #7
yes FirstLight Nov 2021 #11
Consider hiring an elder law attorney. Your county Bar Association can give referrals. 3Hotdogs Nov 2021 #12
My dad served in Korea nt FirstLight Nov 2021 #21
He and your mom are eligible for benefits. Maybe some are available now. 3Hotdogs Nov 2021 #27
Omg. God bless you and wishing you well. Joinfortmill Nov 2021 #14
I wish you were mine . . . AndyS Nov 2021 #15
GET...A...GOOD...ATTORNEY...ASAP ashredux Nov 2021 #17
This message was self-deleted by its author ashredux Nov 2021 #18
I'm no expert but the folks here who are urging you to talk to a lawyer are right. calimary Nov 2021 #19
Support group? Auggie Nov 2021 #20
I wish.... I do have several friends around my age who are also FirstLight Nov 2021 #22
You might want to consider using Informed Delivery LiberalFighter Nov 2021 #23
it's all new to me... and Im not trying to just TAKE OVER FirstLight Nov 2021 #24
Start writing "contemporaneous" notes.... reACTIONary Nov 2021 #25
really good idea! FirstLight Nov 2021 #26
My sister was the one that had to do this for my parents csziggy Nov 2021 #28
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