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Kellerfeller

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22. Don't worry
Sat Feb 11, 2012, 11:59 AM
Feb 2012

No offense taken. I don't let message boards impact me emotionally.

Like I said, for some it is easier that for others. That doesn't mean people shouldn't work towards it. Just because I'll never be a great guitar player and it doesn't come easily to me, doesn't mean I shouldn't work toward it. And that is just something I want to do.

Protecting yourself emotionally and controlling your emotions is far more important in life.

Would you tell a kid not to bother trying to play the guitar because you think they just can't do it? I wouldn't. Just as I would encourage kids to recognize that some people are mean and that if you let them get you upset, they win. If you can teach kids to take a step back and not be emotionally involved in the teasing, it gives them an entirely new perspective. That method has worked great with my daughter and the catty middle school girls.

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Words [View all] boston bean Feb 2012 OP
I will offer a little to get things started... ZombieHorde Feb 2012 #1
Thank you Zombie Horde, all very good responses. boston bean Feb 2012 #4
I contend the original claim is true Kellerfeller Feb 2012 #18
If we shouldn't consider each others feelings, then why is anything "bad?" ZombieHorde Feb 2012 #19
No one said anything about how we treat others Kellerfeller Feb 2012 #20
tell that to a child. all of us who have raised children know better. tell that to a seabeyond Feb 2012 #21
Don't worry Kellerfeller Feb 2012 #22
four agreements. an easy book to read. basic. so simple. one of my favorites seabeyond Feb 2012 #23
I see. We are talking about two slightly different subjects. ZombieHorde Feb 2012 #24
Here's what I think of the second excuse... Violet_Crumble Feb 2012 #2
I agree Violet boston bean Feb 2012 #5
it's late here, but just a couple of quick thoughts on a battle we have been fighting for at least` niyad Feb 2012 #3
All very good points, niyad! boston bean Feb 2012 #6
we hear about the teens bullied with words killing themselves.. we are outraged. seabeyond Feb 2012 #7
+1 redqueen Feb 2012 #8
Very good points with real-life examples. nt ZombieHorde Feb 2012 #12
addressing it from another perspective. always denigrating, dismissing, creating a caricature of a seabeyond Feb 2012 #9
ok... lets look at it from another perspective. du. words dont matter... all the stuff. gynergy seabeyond Feb 2012 #10
All of those arguments are b.s. and are typical of the larger culture's dismissal of women's rights. yardwork Feb 2012 #11
I'm not very good at doing that either. boston bean Feb 2012 #13
Many DUers have the impression that I am a suburban man riding around on a lawn mower swilling beer! yardwork Feb 2012 #15
Your last paragraph is exactly how I feel. boston bean Feb 2012 #16
..... yardwork Feb 2012 #17
I really don't know how to respond. redqueen Feb 2012 #14
That is SUCH a good point, redqueen Remember Me Feb 2012 #25
yes. from a different angle, the fight to use sexist terms... it is odd, when one takes a step seabeyond Feb 2012 #26
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