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MadrasT

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18. I appreciate all your replies

Reply to MadrasT (Original post)

Fri Feb 10, 2012, 10:32 PM

Feb 2012

I have to say, my recent experience with this really cause me to reevaluate my understanding of a few men who I had thought better of prior to this.

Unfortunately one of them is my boyfriend... but there is hope for him so I shall persevere.

This deflection tactic is definitely something I will be more aware of in the future.

Thanks everyone.

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The "tone argument" [View all] MadrasT Feb 2012 OP

That is another good one. boston bean Feb 2012 #1

IMO, when anyone dismisses your conversation justiceischeap Feb 2012 #2

what I do Whisp Feb 2012 #3

The problem is that these folks are our bosses, partners, family members, HOA presidents, etc. yardwork Feb 2012 #12

you are tired of it? think how gd tired i am of it living it a lifetime. YOU dont want to hear it? seabeyond Feb 2012 #4

... redqueen Feb 2012 #6

+1 n/t Sera_Bellum Feb 2012 #7

Ignore them or ask them to deal with the material and stop whining about the tone. redqueen Feb 2012 #5

+1 n/t Sera_Bellum Feb 2012 #8

It's code for "I'm never going to support your point of view". Starry Messenger Feb 2012 #9

A man said exactly that to me recently. yardwork Feb 2012 #11

Ouch, I don't think I've ever encountered it in person. Starry Messenger Feb 2012 #15

Oh, the TONE excuse. That one makes my blood boil. yardwork Feb 2012 #10

even when we are self-confident but not forceful we are perceived as bitchy, pushy, etc seabeyond Feb 2012 #13

Exactly. Too forceful? Bitch. Too gentle? Wimp. These are all excuses to avoid communicating with us yardwork Feb 2012 #14

not up to saying much myself just now iverglas Feb 2012 #16

This message was self-deleted by its author seabeyond Feb 2012 #17

I appreciate all your replies MadrasT Feb 2012 #18